Is the Parenting Option right for me?
Being a good parent is both challenging and rewarding. Some questions to ask yourself when choosing this option:
Will I have the support I need to take care of myself and my baby?
Keep in mind that you are not the first person to experience an unplanned pregnancy... and you won't be the last. You may feel certain that your family will be mad, show disappointment, kick you out of the house, etc. It's important that you share the news with your family and loved ones. Be prepared for how they may initially respond. Remember, it took you some time for the reality to sink in, so be sure to give them time too. If you are met with condemning and judgmental words, remind them that this is a difficult time for you and you need their support. You may be surprised how supportive they may be, but it may take some time. If you find yourself alone and with no support for the future, remember that Hand 'n Hand is there for you both before birth and beyond. We can provide emotional support before and after pregnancy as well as material needs assistance from birth to age 2.
Am I willing to make adjustments in my life to care for my baby?
Of course, most women in an unplanned pregnancy will need to make necessary changes in their lifestyle when caring for a child. While adjustments may be difficult, the rewards of motherhood far outweigh lifestyle changes. Read stories of Hand 'n Hand clients who came into the center facing their unplanned pregnancies worried about how a baby would change their lives. They shared how the rewards far outweigh the challenges!!
Can I commit to provide for my child's physical, social and emotional needs?
Remember that you are not alone. There are many resources available to you besides any family support you may have. Hand 'n Hand caregivers are available to meet with you and provide emotional support during your pregnancy and after birth. We offer several programs designed to offer social and emotional support with other moms on a similar journey. Hand 'n Hand will supplement your needs for material assistance such as diapers, wipes, formula, baby food, infant toiletries and medicines until the child's 2nd birthday. We are blessed with many donations of baby items such as clothes, blankets, bottles and basically anything a baby uses that we can provide as available. Hand 'n Hand has many partners in the community and can provide referrals to resources for needs such as medical, housing, financial assistance and social services.
Different Parenting Options
- Married Parenting
Have you considered this option with the baby's father? Research shows that on an average, children do better economically, psychologically, socially and educationally when they are raised by married parents who love each other and their children.
You and your baby's father can share parenting responsibilities whether you live in the same house or not. Research shows that children are at risk when they don't have involved fathers.
- Single Parenting
Not having a father present may be hard for both you and your child. When you choose to parent alone, your child's needs will demand most of your attention. Given determination and a supportive environment, many women can--and do--succeed as single parents.
Should you choose to parent, we can assist you with many resources and material items. We have maternity clothes and infant items to prepare for your baby's birth. We continue assistance with infant items, such as diapers, wipes, formula, baby food and clothes, up until the time when your child reaches their second birthday.
We are here to help you get the answers to your questions so you can make a fully informed decision about which option is right for you.